Friday, November 13, 2009


I was recently asked by one of my close friends to be a bridesmaid in her wedding.  I am so honored, and thrilled to be a part of her big day!  Her wedding was to take place on a Friday in May.

Our other dear friend, who was a big part of Ian and I meeting, is getting married on the Saturday night (the night after my friend's wedding).  I thought this was perfect, and that we'd be able to attend both.

But my friend has moved her wedding to Saturday evening.  As in, now both weddings are the same day.  And my friend's is in NY, while our other close friend's is in Baltimore.  Now we're faced with a huge dilemma.  Do we split up, Ian go to the wedding here in Baltimore, and I go to my friend's wedding in NY?  That way, at least we both are a part of each of their wedding days.  I am bummed out.

I'm sad at the thought of missing either of their weddings.  And hearing stories from Ian, if we were to split up for the weekend, would make me even more bummed out.  Especially because many of our close friends will be at the Baltimore wedding.

I think my loyalty is to my friend because I am a bridesmaid for her.  But I hate having to make this decision!  Have you been in this situation before? What'd you decide?


  1. What a terrible situation. Of all the weekends to have weddings, why do two of your friends have to pick the same one?

  2. Oh, man I could be in a similar situation next year. One of Nick's really good friend's is getting married over the 4th of July weekend in Oregon. There's going to be a ton of people renting out cabins and it sounds like so much fun.

    One of my friends (who was a bridesmaid in my wedding) is engaged but hasn't set a date yet. She is thinking the 4th of July weekend will most likely be the date, and I would be a bridesmaid in her wedding. So, if she does stick with that date Nick and I would split up, which is a pretty big bummer because I would love for both of us to be able to go to both!

  3. My roommate in college is getting married the same day as one of Jon's roommates from college! Of all 365 days - it's crazy when they fall on the same date.

    Don't stress - I know that whatever you decide, either person would understand and still feel your love and spirit with them!!!


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