A post recently showed up in my facebook feed asking if breastfeeding is appropriate on a metro. The responses this post produced astounded me. There was criticism, judgment, cruel words. It got me thinking about the nature of our society.
Parenting is hard. Whoever says it is not either does not have kids yet, or has not gotten to a challenging time in parenting yet. Why as a society, are we so quick to judge other parents. I am not talking about the type of judging we do when we hear of abuse, emotional, physical, or sexual - because those actions are completely unacceptable. I am talking about judging other parents for their choices. For their mistakes. For their differences in opinion.
Why are we not offering support, understanding, and respect? I do not agree with every parenting decision other parents make. But guess what - their children are not mine. Their life is not mine. What works for them is up to them, and just as I expect their respect in the decisions we make for Luca, I respect theirs as well.
Parents make mistakes. We are human. I have made mistakes with Luca. But it is a learning process, and one that requires time and understanding, not judgment.
So instead of passing judgment when I see parents struggling with a child throwing a tantrum in the middle of public, I am going to shoot them an understanding smile (hopefully without looking creepy). If I see a mom struggling with all of the kid crap she is carrying, while holding a baby, I am going to help. I have been there - actually, I am that mama mess that I am referring to.
I am vowing to be less judgmental, and more supportive. Will you?