Baby girl is measuring on schedule. Her heartbeat was strong. I have only gained 1 pound since my last visit over 4 weeks ago (score!). Must be from me eating super healthy the past month.
Unfortunately, the appointment also confirmed that this doctor's office is not the right fit for me. I really like one of the doctors, but the one I saw today is the same one I had complaints about when I saw her last time. Let's call her Dr. Impatient. She's very short with me, and makes me feel like my questions bother her. Today, I had four questions. Here they are and what her responses were.
1. Heartburn - I described what happened on Easter. Remember - some food felt like it was stuck for 4 hours and I kept spitting up acid? I told her I spoke with the doctor on call and that she thought it was a hiatal hernia caused by the pregnancy. Her response: with a very weird look on her face, Dr. Impatient said "that's not pregnancy related. you need to see a gastroenterologist. they might need to go in there and open up your esophagus."
My reaction: WTF?! I explained to the doctors from our first appointment that I have extreme anxiety when it comes to medical situations. That's part of the reason we are opting to go natural (no needles - eek!). Could she said it with a little bit more compassion? Something like "let's send you to a gastroenterologist to make sure nothing else is going on. keep taking the zantac if it's helping, but I just want to cover all our bases." I would have felt much more confident in that type of response. Instead, I left the office feeling freaked out and thinking I have some major issue.
2. Antsy. I described that I've been having trouble getting comfortable but that I thought this was early to be feeling uncomfortable in every position. Her response: "that's going to just get worse. next?"
My reaction: WTF?! I get that I will likely be physically uncomfortable sometimes. But I explained that my lower back is hurting all the time and she offered no suggestions. I would've expected a doctor to offer ANYTHING, like try acupuncture, or try sitting in ______ position to relieve the pressure from your back. But she said nothing.
3. Gestational diabetes test. I mentioned that since my blood sugar was just slightly above normal prior to getting pregnant, would I have an increased chance at testing positive for gestational diabetes? Her response: "did you inform us of this when you first found out you were pregnant? [my general practioner sent over my blood results - so yes] we should've been monitoring your sugar levels the entire pregnancy [that's your fault, not mine]. do you have any family members with diabetes? [yes - but it's been something that has developed late in life.] you haven't been following a strict diet? [i eat healthy already so nobody suggested i change anything.] Well, it doesn't look good for the test, I guess we'll see.
My reaction: WTF?! Well, at this point, I really wanted to cry. Why hadn't they informed me of this when my blood results are in my chart? Why didn't they suggest this from the beginning? Why am I being blamed for this? And she really didn't answer my question! She just made it seem like I'm doomed!
4. Hypnobirthing. I asked what her experience had been like with patients using the hypnobirthing method? Her response: "I didn't use it to have my children. If you want to use that, it's fine with me."
My reaction: complete frustration at this point. I didn't want to push anything else because clearly she had her own agenda for the appointment, and I'm sure I wouldn't get open answers from her regardless.
So yes - that was just about how the appointment went. I left the office, called Ian, and started tearing up immediately. This is not how I want my doctor to treat me. I am paying them to care for me. This is their job, what they have chosen to do for their lives. I am a first time mother and would really like to be treated with respect when I have questions. I don't call them with an abundance of questions (I've only called the office twice throughout the entire pregnancy). I normally only have a couple brief questions, if any at all. I don't appreciate being treated so negatively. And also, they KNOW I already have anxiety. Don't you think you'd take a little more time to answer questions with someone who has made you very aware of their anxiety issues?
Anyways, I left there and went and had my blood drawn for the diabetes test. I am praying with everything in me that this test comes back okay.
I guess it's perfect timing that we have a consult with a midwife tomorrow. I called a couple weeks ago, after this practice came highly recommended by several people in the area. It's a group of 3 OBs, and 6 midwives. They have privileges at the same hospital we want to deliver at. Hopefully this consult will be fantastic and I can walk away from Dr. Impatient.