tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5671950453367779439.post2453328308754240457..comments2023-07-02T07:26:23.314-04:00Comments on From MaGerks to I Do's: We have so little controlKatehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00792827926662946519noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5671950453367779439.post-42388385515489517422010-04-28T19:27:30.273-04:002010-04-28T19:27:30.273-04:00I think you should have one. Invite everyone that ...I think you should have one. Invite everyone that makes you feel good. Invite who you want to be there. Who you will be happy to see and happy to spend the day with. Have a great day. You deserve it. <br /><br />And I don't know your situation, but we had a bad situation with Adam's family and we had to cut all ties. It was all around the time of our wedding, which was 7 years ago. It was honestly the best decision. It had to be done. We are healthier and happier because of it.Three Cats and a Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16757969648902689785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5671950453367779439.post-52154289067856565432010-04-28T12:48:16.491-04:002010-04-28T12:48:16.491-04:00I'm wish Stacy on this - don't underestima...I'm wish Stacy on this - don't underestimate how happy you'd be to have one. <br /><br />You can't choose your family (believe me) - but you can choose your friends and I do agree that it is sometimes better (or at least the next best thing... this is coming from someone who has TONS of family drama).Kimhttp://charmcitykim.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5671950453367779439.post-31051296565975321512010-04-28T10:54:59.023-04:002010-04-28T10:54:59.023-04:00it is hard to say what to do when you don't kn...it is hard to say what to do when you don't know much about the dynamics of the situation. however, i think maybe it would be just about one family member and the rest are possibly taking 'sides'. because otherwise, you could just not include that one person that you are having issues with, but invite the rest to the shower. i really think you would enjoy a shower even if it was just your close friends there. it's just a fun time to get together and celebrate your baby ... and sometimes your friends are the best support you have (like you've said). let them help you celebrate the pending arrival of your little girl!<br /><br />i wish i could be more help. i have learned that family drama can do a lot of damage, but in most cases, time heals things. depending on the situation, i hope that time can give you some comfort and relief from the situation. take care!jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08044560541276275050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5671950453367779439.post-64310150781598430942010-04-28T09:35:44.166-04:002010-04-28T09:35:44.166-04:00My dad always says "Don't sweat the small...My dad always says "Don't sweat the small stuff" - at first it used to irritate me, but then I started realizing I was so focused on things that I had no control over and now I try and live by it! <br /><br />I don't think it's a black and white situation - talk it day by day, what feels right to YOU. When I don't know what the best choice is I put some faith into the fact that I'm still standing today and things always seem to work out...<br /><br />As for the shower, don't underestimate how happy you'd be to have one - even if it's not the one you had always envisioned. When family isn't around, friends are the next best thing! Sometimes even better!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5671950453367779439.post-21916526414401592952010-04-28T09:32:33.387-04:002010-04-28T09:32:33.387-04:00This is really tough because without knowing the d...This is really tough because without knowing the details of what's going on, it's hard to say what I'd do. If someone in your family seriously wronged you or something, then excluding them from a shower or your life in general is understandable. Or maybe they are just "misbehaving" so to speak, and you don't want their drama around you, so then that too is justified. <br /><br />This reminds me of when there are family problems before a wedding, and brides/grooms fret about how to handle it ("do I just not invite them?") Sometimes you have to be selfish and stick to your guns about not wanting to be surrounded by negative energy. Have you talked to a trusted family member about the shower issue specifically?Alisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15616042004897454479noreply@blogger.com